Social skills
Cooperative learning
Sample Looks like Sounds like Feels like charts
Group working together, collaboration, or cooperation
Looks Like | Sounds Like | Feels Like |
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Heads together | Let's get started. We can do this. |
Wow! we are accomplishing something. |
Sitting Close together with everyone able to make eye contact by only moving their heads. | Could you help us with this? | Other students are listening to my suggestions. |
Eyes on activity | We need to... | I can really learn when I listen. |
Pointing to material | Next, lets... | It's good to learn from other students. |
Looks at clock | Can we talk about that later. | I understand better when I talk about my ideas. |
Passing materials to someone else. | Look at this. | I feel more confident when we agree to an idea. |
On edge of chair | How much time is left? | When we work together we accomplish more. |
A lot of leaning forward | Let's move on. | When we share our different ways of understanding it helps us all to understand more. |
Eye contact | Any other suggestions. | |
Smiles | You do that and I'll do this. | |
Open body language | We're halfway there. | |
We're almost done. | ||
Thank you | ||
What if ... | ||
So really we could ... | ||
Clapping, high fives, good idea, good job, good question, good thinking, way to think, | ||
Does that make sense? | ||
What do you have? What do you think? |
Getting Back to Work
Looks Like | Sounds Like | Feels Like |
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Point to materials | We need to get back to work. | Oh. Yes. Thanks for the reminder. |
Tap on desk | What can we do next? | Dang. We have a lot to do and not much time. |
Look the people in the eye | Let's go on. | Pressure... |
Point to the directions | Let's skip this and go on for now. | Relief there is ____ time left. |
Hand motions | Where are we now? | |
Pass materials | Let's keep going. | |
Pointing to the clock | I think we are off track. | |
We should talk about that later. | ||
We only have ____ minutes left. | ||
We need to all concentrate. | ||
Do wee need to start over? | ||
Lets' do that later. |
Disagree Politely
Looks Like | Sounds Like | Feels like |
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Lean toward the person | Let me suggest another idea. | Tense |
Eye contact | I see what you're saying. | Want to avoid the situation. |
Wrinkle nose | Consider this. | Want to ask for help. |
Open body language | That's one way to look at this... | We worked it out before, we can again. |
Ask for clarification. | ||
I don't agree. | ||
I have a different idea. | ||
I would agree with that if... | ||
I can not go along with that. |
Watching the Time
Looks Like | Sounds Like | Feels like |
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Looking at the clock | We have five minutes | Being pressured to get done. |
Point to watch | How much more time? | Feeling relieved that we seem to be on schedule or ahead of schedule. |
Motion to hurry | We're running out of time. | |
Looking at directions | We're wasting time. | |
Let's move on and come back to that later. | ||
We're ahead of schedule. | ||
We need to move along. | ||
Look at the clock. | ||
Let's make a plan. | ||
Hurry up. | ||
Go on. | ||
How much time can we spend on each part? |
Respond to Ideas
Looks Like | Sounds Like | Feels like |
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Sit up | Good idea. | Disappointed that an idea won't work or others have different ideas. |
Learn forward | Good point. | Feels good when everyone agrees. |
Make eye contact | I like that idea. Thanks. | Feels good to have your suggestions considered. |
Thumbs up | I disagree. | Feels better when your ideas are used. |
OK sign | I don't understand. | Feels good to see ideas are successful. |
Smile or frown | Explain that to me. | |
Puzzled look | What about... | |
Fist bump | That part we can use. | |
Clapping | That sounds great, but I don't think we have the time or resources to be able to do it. | |
What do we all think about that? | ||
Way to think. |
Help Without Giving the Answer
Looks Like | Sounds Like | Feels like |
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Leaning together. | Where did you start to have trouble? | Solving a problem. |
Pointing to problems. | What do you think comes next? | Frustrating when not know how to help without telling. |
Handing materials. | What do you understand? | |
Pointing to materials. | Explain it to me. | |
Writing | How did you do that? | |
Drawing | Remember when... | |
Manipulating objects. | What if you did this... | |
Do you want a hint? | ||
Asking questions. | ||
Where are you? |
Ask for Information and Opinions
Looks Like |
Sounds Like | Feels like |
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Outstretched hand | What do you think? | Wonder if others are understanding. in agreement. |
Leaning in | How do you feel about ... | Nervous that others may disagree. |
Eye contact | Is there something more? | Wonder if others are in agreement. |
Squinting | Explain what you mean. | Relieved |
Tell me more. | Encouraged | |
I'm curious about... | Irritated | |
What about... | ||
Does anyone else have an opinion? | ||
What else applies? |
Reduce Tension
Looks Like |
Sounds Like | Feels like |
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Make the "time-out" signal. | Can we start from where we agreed? | Tense |
Smile | Can we compromise on this? | Want to avoid the situation. |
Sitting down, relaxing ... | Maybe we all need to take a deep breath. | Want to ask for help. |
Shaking head | Time out! | We worked it out before, we can again. |
Calm down gesture | Let's not get carried away. | |
Wink | Can we work together to resolve this? | |
It's OK to disagree. Can we move on? | ||
Let's keep calm. | ||
What are you upset about? Can I help? | ||
Is it possible to do both? | ||
Remember what we do when we have a conflict. | ||
How can we make this a win-win? |
Show Appreciation
Looks Like |
Sounds Like | Feels like |
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Smile | Thank you. | Good to be acknowledged. |
Wink | That was nice. | Good to appreciate another person. |
Pat | You helped when... | Good to be recognized as a contributing member of the group. |
Touch | I appreciated it when... | Feel accomplished. |
Nod | I couldn't have done it without you. | |
Thumbs up | I liked the way you... | |
High five | It really helped when... | |
Way to think. | ||
You are making me feel accomplished. |
Check for Understanding
Looks Like |
Sounds Like | Feels like |
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Eye contact | Explain that. | Wondering if everyone has the same understanding. |
lean forward | How did you get that? | Wondering if I understand what the others understand. |
Group involvement | Can you show me? | Wonder if others in the group are thinking the same as me. |
Give me an example. | ||
Tell us how to do it? | ||
How would you explain it? | ||
What do you have? | ||
What do you think? | ||
Does that make sense? |
Share Feelings
Looks Like |
Sounds Like | Feels like |
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Smiles or frowns | I feel because | Wonder if others are in agreement. |
Arms folded | I wish... | Nervous that others may disagree. |
Excited face | Let me tell you how I feel about this. | Glad |
Tears | How do you feel about .... | Relieved |
High fives | Do we all feel that way? | Encouraged |
Irritated |
Invite Others to Talk
Looks Like | Sounds Like | Feels like |
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Lean toward the person. | What do you think? | Nervous that others may disagree. |
Sitting Close together. | How do you feel about this? | Glad to be asked for your ideas. |
Encouraging hand movements. | Do you want to share? | Relieved someone spoke up. |
Smile | Your turn. | Encouraged |
Eyes on person. | Tell us about it. | Irritated |
How would you do it? | ||
What do you feel? | ||
Please give us your ideas. | ||
Let's each tell what we think. | ||
Anyone want to add to that? | ||
You haven't said anything yet. |
Check for Agreement
Looks Like | Sounds Like |
Feels like |
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Thumbs up. | Do you agree? | Nervous everyone might not agree. |
OK sign. | Did you get that? | Happy everyone is in agreement. |
Head nods. | Is that OK with you? | |
Did we all get the same answer? | ||
How many agree? | ||
Shall I write it now? |
Criticize the Idea Not the Person
Looks Like |
Sounds Like | Feels like |
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Body moving forward | I'm unsure about what you said. | Nervous someone might be upset. |
Smiles | Could we add more to that idea? | Relieved someone spoke up. |
Non-angry expression. | I disagree with the part about... | Disappointed an idea was rejected and needs to be replaced or modified. |
Touch on shoulder. | Maybe if we changed this... | Glad to find an idea that might insure success. |
I like this part. If we would change this... | ||
I think the ideas needs a little work. | ||
Let's look at that a little closer. |
Summarize
Looks Like | Sounds Like |
Feels like |
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One person will be talking at a time. | Short conclusions. | We are almost done. |
Writing thoughts. | Let's review what we have. | We are getting done. |
Listening | The main purpose is... | Needing to make sure one last time. |
So what we've said so far is... | Confident everyone is on the same page. | |
At this point we are... | ||
Would you all agree on this conclusion... | ||
Our key idea seems to be... | ||
This is what we agree to so far. |
Contributing Ideas
Looks Like | Sounds Like | Feels like |
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Taking turns | I have an idea. | Feels good to have your suggestions considered. |
Raising hands. | What about... | Feels good when everyone shares their ideas. |
Showing materials. | try this... | Feels better when your ideas are used. |
I think we should... | Feels good to see ideas are successful. | |
How about this? | ||
What if we... | ||
We could... | ||
My idea is... | ||
Good thinking. |